Group hug! Is pda good or bad?

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Group hug! Is pda good or bad?

Eric Flores, voices editor

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As the hallways fill with students heading to their next class, teachers prepare to see kids hugging and holding hands. Upholding the rules, teachers break up these seemingly harmless gestures under the pretenses of PDA – public display of affection.

Meanwhile students continue to break this rule without regret.

Is a public display of affection really that terrible? The short answer is: not necessarily. There is more to the picture than that. It is about the process of properly growing into maturity.

As we go through grade school, we are not hardened individuals. We move and learn as a collective with little to no true social identity. Like clay, we are molded and shaped to be the next generation of world citizens. However, personal growth really begins when students hit high school.

This is when students finally get a chance to express themselves on a different level by means of electives and extracurricular activities. These optional classes allow us to meet others who share our appreciation of that subject.

This is not the only change that occurs though. Boys and girls alike begin to show love towards others more openly. This is where hugging and holding come into play. This is normal for teens because it is a natural occurrence in our everyday lives. Within our lives outside of school, these actions are completely positive. We are essentially encouraged to show affection in that fashion.

Consequently, that is why the rule continues to be enforced. It is not there because adults do not appreciate the idea of creating bonds. Rather, it is because some teens will escalate to other things that become socially unacceptable. Even in the hallway. It is this that makes teachers worry.

So how do we make everyone happy? There will probably never be a happy middle ground.

The adolescent will always want fewer boundaries because we mostly base our thought process on emotions and what best suits our intentions. We believe we are being denied the freedom of self.

On the other hand, teachers do not want make-out sessions in the classroom and want to keep minds focused on learning.

That is why (at least in my opinion) the rule is perfect the way it is, but enforcement should be more lenient. Even though we complain and see it as an annoyance, it shows us that there are places where we must control our urges. It shows that there are times that we must set aside our feelings so that we can center our attention.

However, it is necessary that we are free to grow intellectually as well as emotionally without the fear of being ridiculed about it. Only we can learn how to manage the ways of the heart. That is something that can’t be found in a textbook.

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